In this article, we will define cyber bullying, which are moral attacks directed at our children at school or on their computer screen.
I personally believe that psychological attacks have the potential to traumatize under-aged children, conditioning them for their future years. When a child experiences harassment, the most radical solution is to have him/her change school. But when the insults are coming via Facebook, Twitter or via instant messaging platforms and chat rooms, what should we do?
How do we protect our child? This article may give you a few answers!
Cyber bullying facts
Get over to where your child studies
The fact that you present yourself at school and demonstrate your concern in your child’s activities has 2 positive consequences:
- 1. You strengthen your child by letting him/her know that s/he is important to you and that you are there to take care of him/her.
- 2. Your mere presence can intimidate your child’s bullies, thus dissipating the unhealthy atmosphere reigning in the school environment.
The harassed child or adolescent is less in need of adult protection than learning to be respected. These skills can be acquired if he has the right support at the right time.
Cyber bullying tips
Keep an eye on your child’s online activities
If your child is the victim of harassment, it is important to be familiar with the web sites that s/he visits, and with whom they have online discussions. The easiest way for you is to create an account on a social networking site and have your child accept you as a friend. If your child rejects this invitation, you can consider creating a new account under a pseudonym.
Finally, a spy software for smartphones is a solution you might want to consider, since this type of application provides you with all the information concerning your child’s phone activities.
Record his/her internet activities
You can consider installing this spy application to create a backup of your child’s online communications. This compilation of data is accessible to you once you are connected to the internet- you can therefore keep an eye on his/her online activities (his/her digital life).
The ease of our children with new technologies should not diminish our responsibility as parents. If they master the technicality of new media, our children do not know the rules and underestimate the dangers to which they expose themselves. And it is up to us, parents, to give up the responsibility and the need to talk about it.
Simple words ⇒ practical advice ⇒ a lot of common sense too
Talk to him/her about cyber bullying
Underage children often have a low self-esteem. They can also have a passive attitude. This exposes them to several dangers.
Your child may in fact become more mature than other children, who have not grown up emotionally and only think of hurting your child.
In these cases, it is important to inform your child about the existence of online harassment, teach him/her how to identify its dangers and how to protect him/herself. In real life, we can write a diary and, by nature, everyone is not aware of our moods, our desires, our sorrows … On the Internet, it’s the same : you do not pour out your anger, your loves or your disappointments in the light of all.